Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Stimulating the G-Spot

One of the questions that I answer for people all the time is:

How do I stimulate my G-Spot?  

Which usually leads to:

Why would I want to?

Before we get to "how," let's start with "what." The female G-spot performs the same function as the male prostate gland.  It produces prosthetic fluid (ejaculate), and it swells when aroused. 

Where is it located?  Insert your finger into your own vagina or one that you've borrowed for this demonstration.  Crook your finger towards the front of the abdominal wall, like you're telling someone to c'mere.  There's an area there, approximately 1" to 1 1/2" inside that feels different from the rest of the smooth muscular vaginal walls.  It may feel dense, spongy and/or ridged.  Women often experience pressure on this spot as a "need to pee," but this feeling passes as the spot is stimulated more.

Now, we can talk about "how."  Unlike the clitoris, which likes fluttering, vibrating stimulation, the G-Spot likes to have firm, steady pressure applied.  Try rubbing it with one finger, then two. Rub in a circular motion, or use an in-and-out motion.  Even better, grab a dildo made out of glass or stainless steel.  You want the toy to have a bulbous head, in order to really get that prosthetic fluid accumulating.

With the right amount of preparation, women can ejaculate, just like men.  For some women, this is easy and happens without having to think about it.  For other women, it takes a voluntary contraction - a little push - at just the right time.  Voila!  Squirting!

Why would you want to stimulate your G-Spot on your way to orgasm?  Women who orgasm with a combination of clitoral and G-Spot stimulation report that their orgasms are "more mind-blowing" - to use a technical term.  Who wouldn't want that?