New We-Vibe Toys!

What great news!

We-Vibe II

We love the We-Vibe here at Primrose Path, so it's exciting that the We-Vibe company is announcing three new product lines.

The Touch is an hourglass-shaped clitoral stimulator and all-over massager.

The Tango is a lipstick-shaped bullet massager.

And the Salsa is a round-headed bullet massager.

Like the original We-Vibe, the new products are made from body safe materials, waterproof and rechargeable. We haven't seen a rechargeable bullet-sized massager before, so there's a lot of curiosity as to how it's going to work.

We'll let you know when they're available for sale!

What's Your Fantasy?

Halloween isn't just for kids!  It's the ideal time to act out your hidden fantasy. Sexy costumes are plentiful, and you already have society's permission to pretend to be something that you wouldn't normally be.  If you could play dress-up, who would you be?

A naughty nurse? Say ahhhh

An officer of the law?

Pirate's Booty?

Acting out fantasies with your partner is a safe way to explore new experiences with someone you know and trust.  It's not just for Halloween, either.  Check out www.PrimrosePathToys.com to get your imagination started.

Lingerie On The Way

I have three brief but exciting pieces of news:

1) PrimrosePathToys.com is having a corset liquidation sale!

2) PrimrosePathToys.com has lingerie on clearance!

Why Women Fake It

Sorry, I'm not talking about orgasms.  I'm talking about faking a personality.

I saw this silly ad on Facebook that nettled me.  I'm not throwing furniture over it, but it got under my skin.

Let's leave aside the fact that an ad like this implies that making the relationship work lies solely in the woman's domain.  Where's the male version of this workshop?  Oh, yeah, they get workshops on how to hypnotize women.

What bothered me is that this ad suggests that there are checklists that will "fix" women so that they no longer engage in annoying behaviors that drive men away.  It's preying on all of the worst stereotypes for each gender.  Women are insecure, annoying, and downright dumb.  Men are all cheaters who don't know anything about communicating their feelings.


I have a hard time believing that relationships work because one party used a checklist in order to trick, manipulate and seduce the other.  I have this wacky idea that relationships work because, in general, all human beings are similar.  And where we're different, we make an effort to embrace those differences because we see how our diverse talents complement each other and make the world a better, more interesting and balanced place.

How about tossing out the checklists?  How long can manufactured attraction last, anyway?

The Art Of Compromising

I have a friend - let's call him Rudy - that I sometimes consult with on relationship things so that I can get a male perspective.  By "consult with", I really mean "argue heatedly and good-naturedly."

Recently, Rudy and I were discussing one of the keys to a good relationship  - The Art Of Compromising.

Rudy: Women need to do the compromising in a relationship to make it work because men don't compromise.

Me: I think you're confused about the meaning of the word "compromise."

Rudy: No, I'm not.

Me:  Yes, you are.  A compromise involves both parties getting part but not all of what they want by giving up some of what they want.  You are talking about capitulating or giving in to your partner's wants.

Rudy: Yes, fine, whatever.

Me: Thank you for capitulating. 

There is a big emotional difference between compromising and capitulating.

For one thing, the word "promise" is part of compromise.  It means that each person is entering into an agreement and that they each promise to hold up their end of the deal.  If both sides meet the agreed-upon terms of the compromise, then going through the process together instills trust between the partners. There's no clear winner or loser, so no one loses face or gets to gloat.

However, when you capitulate, you give in and agree to your partner's wants while giving up on your own.  Sometimes, it's for good reason - you genuinely change your mind because you are persuaded.  Other times, though, we do it because we just don't want to argue or because our partner's happiness is more important than our own.  In capitulation, one person is a "loser" which builds resentment towards the "winner."

Let me toss out a scenario.  He bought two tickets to Sunday's football game and wants his best girl to go with him.  She bought two tickets for Legally Blonde: The Musical for the same day and time and wants to make a romantic date of it.  It's a Choose-Your-Own-Adventure story from here:

Turn to page 18 if you choose to give up your tickets, go with your partner and spend the day sulking, making pointed comments about how much fun you're NOT having and withholding sex/affection for the next week.

Turn to page 27 if you choose to invite a friend to join you instead of forcing your partner to go.  Then, you will discuss your partner's negative traits in great detail throughout the day and arrive home spoiling for a fight.

Turn to page 31 if you call up the ticket office and try to change your tickets to another date for a small fee so that you can do both activities.

Turn to the Last Page if you choose to manipulate your partner into doing what you want through pouting and tearful threats.

How would you handle the above scenario?  How often do you compromise?  Is it easy or difficult?

How much of the time do you feel you capitulate?  How does it make you feel?

There are no two people in the world who are going to agree 100% of the time, yet we make our relationships work... somehow.  Sometimes.  Kind of.  When we want to.  Don't we?

And the 2010 Winner Is....

I'm in front with Greg DeLong of njoy, 

Vera from FYN and Ron Jeremy

Sadly, I am missing the big trade show of the year.  That means that I am also missing the second annual 'O' Awards.  Last year was lots of fun, and I got my picture taken with some . . . interesting people.

I'm sad to be missing it (and hopeful that my orders are filled since everyone's gone to the show this weekend).  So, I've decided to give out my own 'O' Awards based on the ANE's nominees.

Overall Product Design for Women

 We-Vibe II

Overall Product Design for Men

Tenga Egg

Innovation for 2010

Sqweel

Best Marketing Campaign

Je Joue, The G-Spot Does Exist!

Packaging

Joya4U, Little Su Tulip

Lube, Lotion or Potion

Sliquid Organics, Sliquid

Online Retailer

(write-in campaign for) Primrose Path Toys!

Powered Product

G-Ki from Je Joue

Non-Powered Product

Pure Wand from njoy

Runner-up is the Joque Harness from Spareparts Hardwear

Vibrator Envy

I used to work in direct marketing.  I didn't actually DO the direct marketing, so don't throw things at me, but I worked behind the scenes so corporations could put together their intrusive campaigns.  When things were slow, I was obligated to keep myself busy by reading trade magazines so that I could keep up with what was happening in the DM industry.

Yuck.  I'm an avid reader, but this wasn't a topic that engaged my attention.  Getting laid off was a relief.

On the other hand, trade mags in the Adult Novelty and Entertainment business are a MUCH more interesting read.  Sure, there's a lot of who-inked-a-deal-with-whom, but there are also terrific cover stories, like this one, from April.

It really highlights a new trend in the novelty industry - male toys.

Guys are feeling like they're getting, ahem, the shaft when it comes to sex toys.  Women get the We-Vibe and Gigi and the Rabbit and dildos in all sizes, shapes and colors.  What do guys get?

I'll tell you - cock rings, prostate massagers and portable pussies (or cock socks).  Women can't help it if a man's body doesn't lend itself as nicely to more elaborate and imaginative toy designs.

However, an effort is being made!  Tenga, a Japanese company, is really leading the way in making mens masturbatory aids that have masculine appeal without looking ridiculous (where will you hide your porn star pussy when girlfriend comes over, anyway?).

Companies like Nexus and Aneros are putting together educational campaigns to let men know about the benefits of prostate massage.  A decade ago, it was all about the G-spot.  Now, it's all about the P-spot.  Men are catching on that the backdoor provides entry to a new level of pleasure.  Sorry, couldn't avoid the pun. 

Another P-spotting tool: the Pure Wand from nJoy

Cock rings are popping up everywhere, courtesy of companies, like Screaming O, who place their product all over reality TV.  One of the reasons that vibrating cock rings are so popular is that they have appeal to both sexes.  Want to see a demonstration?  Check out the Primrose Path video!

So, guys, vibrator envy is a thing of the past!  You've been heard - now, enjoy your playtime!